Korf: FOMO to JOMO — whatever to do

People should take the time to appreciate the joy of missing out, suggests Suzanne Korf.

I am sure you have experienced it. You are driving behind someone who is slowing down, and then speeding up, for no reason. You need to honk your horn at the driver ahead of you who is sitting at the light long after it has turned green.

You are amazed by couples who spend their money to go out for a meal together but pass most of their time texting or staring at their mobile phones instead of talking. You see people in apparent good health walking slowly with their heads down, not watching where they are going.

I even see it at the hospital. Elderly people sitting patiently as their offspring type away at their phones. Parents talking on the phone as their child cries for their attention. Toddlers being given smart phones as toys.

It is an epidemic. It’s almost like a disease. People just can’t put down their phones.

Don’t get me wrong. I am addicted to my phone. I would be lost without it. I used to joke that I would be happy when they find a way to implant my phone into my wrist so I will stop losing it and won’t have to carry it. Now that I have heard that this technology is already developed I am not so sure that is a good thing.

Why are we so addicted to our phones? Why has social media replaced human contact? Is it FOMO (fear of missing out)? According to Wikipedia, FOMO is “a pervasive apprehension that others might be having rewarding experiences from which one is absent”. This social anxiety is characterized by “a desire to stay continually connected with what others are doing”.

Recently I have been on a mission to find more balance in my life. Ironically, a lot of the information and motivational videos that I have been watching are accessed on my phone, while a lot of the advice is to get off your phone. The advice is pretty much all the same. Enjoy the present. Appreciate human connections. Spend time in nature. Meditate. Write in your journal. Practice gratitude. Stop wasting time on Facebook.

In short, you might say that we should trade FOMO for JOMO, or the joy of missing out. JOMO is the antidote to FOMO. Instead of comparing our lives to those of the Joneses who are vacationing in Bali and never posting a picture that isn’t breathtakingly perfect, we need to stop comparing ourselves to others and enjoy who we are in the present moment.

So while my phone is great for locating my car when I get lost after wandering the paths at Cap St-Jacques (something I inexplicably and invariably do), I keep it neatly tucked away while I enjoy the outdoors and enjoy the joy of missing out. We should all give JOMO a whirl.

Suzanne Korf, a Pointe-Claire resident, is a professional fundraiser who has worked for non-profit organizations for more than 25 years. She is a senior director of development for the Montreal Children’s Hospital Foundation.


Источник: Montrealgazette.com

Источник: Corruptioner.life


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